[A-List] Re: A reformulation (only five?)

["Sabri Oncu" <soncu@xxxxxxxxxxx>]

Hari:

> 2) Politeness: 
> I would have to challenge you to find anywhere that I have 
> been less than 'polite' to Lui. 

I think you took my use of the word "polite" literally. I meant please be
easy on each other, try to hear what the other say, and try to say what you
say in such a way that whether it is your intention or not, the other has
little reason feel that he is under attack. As I always say, if you attack
me, most likely I will attack you back. But if you ask me an intelligent
question, I will try my best to answer your question, where "you" is not
Hari Kumar but is anyone.

> If you mean accept whatever he says, you might be correct 
> I have failed to do that. 

Do you think I accept whatever Henry says? I keep challenging Henry here and
elsewhere,  even when I do not substantially disagree with him. I did not
ask you to be "polite" to Henry. I asked both of you to be "polite" to each
other in the sense I had to explain above after your response.

> 3) Indeed the life of a moderator is not easy!
> Perhaps you mis-understood?

Not at all! You and I had many pleasant exchanges over the years and after
all these I think I know the virtual you reasonably well. By the way, that I
like you has nothing to do with that I accept whatever you say either.
 
> I was not asking for your help.

I know.

> I was flagging quite distinctly, that I will not engage 
> in this manner of switching arguments away from a distinct 
> matter, to my racial background or  my alleged sense of grammar. 

And I agree with that too. I also thought that it was inappropriate of
Henry.

Hence my call for "politeness."

Best,

Sabri